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Anyone else feeling stuck lately? For the past several months my brain has been in overdrive trying to create some sort of plan for “new-ness” or at least a break from all the monotony of my work-from-home, take care of a toddler every day life.
This isn’t the first time I’ve experienced this type of restlessness, and I’m certain it won’t be the last. So, what to do? Packing my bags for a 6 month trip abroad sounds delightful, but my husband might not be on board with this type of quest for self-exploration. (So unreasonable.)
Since I’ve got things to attend to (that toddler, working, maintaining relationships and responsibilities towards friends and family, etc.), I’m looking for ideas of getting reset and inspired that fit into my current life and schedule. Here’s what I’ve found so far.
How to Get Out of a Rut
1. Change it up
I can definitely be a creature of habit. Same breakfast, same shows to re-watch on Netflix, I’m pretty predictable most days. When I’m in one of these restless phases I find making small changes throughout the day helps my mind open up.
I’ll drive a different route home, wear an outfit that seems bolder than I’d usually opt for, or even just end my work day a little sooner and read a magazine for a bit. Getting out of my routine seems to help me relax and unwind in a different way than just practicing self-care tactics like meditation or bubble baths.
2. Get outside
When it comes to exercise, I think my brain needs it even more than my body does. Getting myself outside for a walk, or even just to sit on the front porch for a bit really seems to clear my mind. I’ve worked through problems and brainstormed new projects all while pushing a stroller. Some days I just let the peace and quiet refresh me.
3. Consume it all
My go-to when I’m feeling a little lost is to throw myself into learning and getting insight from others. I’ve been reading books, listening to podcasts, and talking to friends to try to gain a little more perspective.
A few recommendations:
- Second Life podcast – Smart conversations with successful women in all kinds of areas. The one thing they have in common is that they all had careers in unrelated fiends before starting their “second life”. A few examples include the founder of Kendra Scott jewelry, the editor-in-chief of Allure Magazine, designers, musicians, entrepreneurs, founders and general all-around amazing women.
- Your Best Year Yet book – I don’t know that I would have picked this book up on my own but a friend recommended it and I’m having a good time working through the book. There are 10 questions to answer that will make the next 12 months “the most successful ever”. Worth a shot!
- The Road Back to You book – OK, technically I haven’t started this book yet but after seeing a recommendation it’s on my list! I’ve taken a few free online quizzes to determine my # but I’d like to really dive into this book to learn more about myself.
I’m not talking money, though if you’ve got the $$ to spare for a life coach, more power to you. I’m talking more about investing time and resources into learning more about myself and my interests. If that means taking a class, spending a few hours a week reading a book or making a vision board, it’s worth finding the time.
5. Get a New Perspective
Like I said, this is not my first go-round with these feelings of restlessness. In the past I’ve always felt anxious and stressed about these feelings. Wondering why I haven’t got all the things figured out yet and trying to force myself in a new direction.
A talk with a friend gave me a new perspective. Instead of feeling hopeless or sad about this period, I plan to look at this as an opportunity. An opportunity to try new things and learn more about myself. I don’t want to miss out on something amazing or fun because I think I need to stay in a certain lane. By looking at this time as one big opportunity, every day offers a lot of hope!
There’s no finish line I’m trying to reach in my search, just an openness to seeing what life brings my way. Anything you’ve tried in your own search for how to get out of a rut? I’d love to know!