One of the many blessings of being a mid 20’s gal with lots friends who are in committed relationships is being a bridesmaid. Getting to stand by your pal’s side on the most important day of her life is something that should feel like an honor and blessing, right? Then why does it only bring debt and stress?!
Don’t get me wrong, I am so excited when my friends ask me to be in their weddings. That means at some point in our lifetime together you have thought highly enough of me to trust sharing secrets, impart wisdom, and experience embarrassing moments together. Hey, a girl needs her girlfriends, right? However, I can assure you I will not like the dress you pick out, nor the color, nor the cut, and God forbid you tell me how to wear my own hair. So please, do not tell me I can cut the dress off and wear it again. I simply will not be doing that.
But my job as a bridesmaid and as your friend is to say “yes” to all questions and tell you I love everything from the décor to the cake to the wild flowers you had shipped in from Brazil just for the big day. It’s just proper girl code. The only thing I ask is that when my day comes you remember all that I did for you and when I ask you wear a hippy inspired bridesmaid dress that is not in your shade or fashion you do so with a smile on your face. And when I make you devote several weekends of showering me with gifts, you do it from a loving place in your heart. And when you think my flowers are the ugliest things you’ve seen since socks and sandals you tell me they are b-e-a-u-t-i-f-u-l, knowing I endured the same for you.
Love you girls with all my heart and I wish you all the happiest of forever with your man!